Jul 202015
 

Philosophy StoneMy life of introspection has been a well-kept secret despite it dominating my life and outlook. I spent much of the 1990s pacing around after midnight, in turmoil, and in the dark (literally and figuratively), upset about something awful that family, “friends,” or strangers had just done to me. We all have ideas and expectations about how people are supposed to behave.  And sometimes those around us betray those ideas on accident or on purpose, whether for “fun” or to hurt us.

I’d fallen in with bad people, and there were so many incidents that I not only thought about the current one, but recent ones.  In so doing, I began to notice patterns in their behavior.  And soon I had names for these and an explanation.  It’s an awful way to gain peace and understanding, but maybe what I discovered the hard way you can learn more easily just by reading about them.

As an amateur psychologist and philosopher, my field of study is belief and behavior.  What I mean is:

  1. How and why people use our behavior to work their way back into our heads and decide what kind of people they think we are, while usually missing the mark
  2. How and why our beliefs manifest, or fail to, in our behavior.

In the coming months I’ll be discussing my ideas on here and would love to hear what other people think about them.  Hopefully they can help you, too.

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The Two Kinds of Interruption

There are two kinds of conversational interruption: benign and malignant. Benign Interruption Benign interruption is the kind you’re familiar with.  It happens once in a while.  The person doing it often means to help you along or say something related to what you’re saying.  They mean no harm.  Since it’s technically rude, they will often […]

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Why I Blog About Psychology

My life of introspection has been a well-kept secret despite it dominating my life and outlook. I spent much of the 1990s pacing around after midnight, in turmoil, and in the dark (literally and figuratively), upset about something awful that family, “friends,” or strangers had just done to me. We all have ideas and expectations […]

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