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There are two kinds of ignoring: passive and active.

Passive Ignoring

IgnoringPassive ignoring is the kind you’re familiar with.  This is when we pretend someone is not actually present.  If they speak, we don’t acknowledge this at all.  It’s as if they said nothing.  We don’t look at them, pretending the seat they’re in is empty, or where they stand has something else, like a pillar, there.

And yet we tacitly acknowledge their presence, never asking someone else where they are because we know perfectly well they’re right in front of us.  We walk around them.  We don’t attempt to put something in the chair they sit in.  But we otherwise pretend they don’t exist.

Active Ignoring

Active ignoring is when you’re looking right at someone, talking to them, even asking questions, and appearing to pay normal attention to them, but in reality you’re ignoring everything they say.  You hear them saying things they aren’t saying, meaning things they don’t mean, and being someone they aren’t (i.e., you assume they’re saying something rude when they wouldn’t do such a thing).  You don’t listen to their answers to your own questions.  You’re ignoring them and may have no idea you’re doing it.

The Two Kinds of Ignoring

There are two kinds of ignoring: passive and active. Passive Ignoring Passive ignoring is the kind you’re familiar with.  This is when we pretend someone is not actually present.  If they speak, we don’t acknowledge this at all.  It’s as if they said nothing.  We don’t look at them, pretending the seat they’re in is […]

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There are two kinds of conversational interruption: benign and malignant. Benign Interruption Benign interruption is the kind you’re familiar with.  It happens once in a while.  The person doing it often means to help you along or say something related to what you’re saying.  They mean no harm.  Since it’s technically rude, they will often […]

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