Protect Yourself From Suicide

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Jun 292015
 

If you’re prone to suicidal thoughts, you’ve probably noticed that they come and go, often with depression.  During one of those times when you’re feeling better, do yourself a favor – remove easy means of killing yourself from the places where you live or otherwise spend time.  That way, when the darkness comes upon you – and you sort of know that it will – you’ll have made it harder for yourself to go through with it.

The telephone pole (far one) where I lost my soul.

The telephone pole (far one) where I lost my soul.

I was fortunate.  I was only “actively suicidal,” as I call it, a single time.  I happened to have run out of the house where someone had just betrayed me for sport, and when I’d trusted that person to protect me from others doing that very thing.  I had a mental breakdown but didn’t know it at the time.  I just turned and ran.  Within minutes I was crying, to my surprise, and seconds later realized I believed in God when I’d never cared before.

I was climbing a hill, for the house I’d left was in a rural area and there had been nowhere to go when I burst through the back door.  The only real path before me had been a hill.  I was halfway up when I started crying.  I made it over the other side and realized I had nowhere to go, so I sat beside a telephone pole while I lost my soul.

A few minutes later, I became suicidal and looked for a way to end my life.  This was when luck kicked in.  I had no way of doing it except the cars passing me by.  But I was atop a huge hill with a speed limit of 35 mph.  Even speeders were barely doing that by the top, and on seeing me sitting so close to the road, people slowed down even more.  I’d never jump out in front of one and get myself killed, just maimed, if that.

And so I didn’t do it.  It was a horrible moment, having let go of my will to live, committing to killing myself, and then discovering I had no means to go through with it.  A few minutes later, I ceased to be “actively suicidal”, which I define as “doing something right now to bring about your death”.

If I’d stayed in the house, various means would’ve been available to me.  What’s often amazed me is that it didn’t occur to me for 7 years (seven!) that I could’ve gone back, gotten in my car, hauled ass down the hill without my seat belt on, and purposely missed the turn at the bottom.  The trees would’ve taken care of the rest.

If you have access to guns, maybe you shouldn’t.  Get rid of them.  Or ask those who have them to make sure they’re locked up well.  Make a point of not knowing where the key is. Don’t make it easy to kill yourself. Make it hard.  You deserve that.

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Do the World a Favor By Killing Myself

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Jun 222015
 

In the spring of 2014, a 16 year old girl named Maddie Yates committed suicide after posting a YouTube video in which she stated that she’d be doing the world a favor by killing herself.  I can’t disagree more.

Maddie Yates

Maddie Yates

I don’t know the first thing about Maddie, but I know this dark thought.  I used to have it (and worse) in my teens and 20s.  I’m now in my 40s and wish Maddie had given herself, and life, more of a chance.  I can speak to how great life can be despite terrible troubles while younger.  And I now have a wonderful son who wouldn’t exist if I’d gone through with my own suicidal thoughts.

This “favor” thought is self-pity gone too far.  Looking at her statement literally for a moment, there’s very little chance that her being dead is somehow better for the rest of the world.  It’s certainly not for her friends and family.  It is, in fact, the worst thing she could do regarding them, which even her mother has admitted as her point of view.  Maddie was not a criminal or otherwise a drain on society, and even if she were, society is a drain on us sometimes, so we have a right to do it right back.  It’s only fair!

But there appears to be no account of her acting like a jerk or in any way being someone the world would be better off without, assuming such conditions exist anyway.  Rather, she seems to be quite a nice, well-liked person that many would like to have known – the very sort of person the world needs more of.  Her statements reveal terrible self-esteem and lack of hope or awareness about not only her own merits, but other options for dealing with her troubles.

She is also quoted as saying in the video, in regard to her impending suicide, “I just don’t see how this is a bad idea.”  This is mental illness talking, as suicide is basically the definition of a bad idea in the vast majority of cases, and if someone can’t see that, they are not well.  If you ever find yourself thinking that way, you need to immediately seek help because your judgment is now too far off for you to be making such an important decision about your life – and death.

Suicide has often been decried as selfish, which is another subject, but Maddie’s claim of doing us all a favor would seem to be selfless – she’s doing this for us, after all.  Well, that’s baloney.  In the end, that’s what the “do the world a favor by killing myself” idea really is.  This thought is a “gateway” idea that allows you to convince yourself that death, or suicide, is best.  It’s not.  There are so many ways to end your life but still be aliveChange your life instead.  End the life you’re living by finding another one.

For confidential support call the National Suicide Prevention Line on 1-800-273-Talk

May you live another day.

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