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If you’ve ever thought, “If I kill myself, they’ll be sorry,” you’re not alone.  Teenagers are especially prone to this sort of thinking.  It doesn’t mean that you’re really suicidal.  So then why think it?

It has a mollifying effect, meaning it makes us feel better.  Maybe we’re feeling uncared for, so we tell ourselves others care but just can’t (or won’t) show it for some reason.  Maybe they’ve put up a wall of “normalcy” that we can’t pierce.  Maybe we haven’t really tried, afraid of the reaction to our problems and despair.

despairWhatever the reason, this might be called a “gateway” thought to suicide, as we allow ourselves to imagine our death, their grief, and their realization of how we’ve felt and that they missed it all.  Maybe we’re mad, too, and want them to feel agony that they were blind to our pain and were supposed to be able to save us but failed.

There’s some revenge in the thought.  “You made me feel bad, particularly by not paying attention, and now I’ve made you feel bad, too, and you’ll have to live with that forever.”

As satisfying as such dark thoughts are, they aren’t something to lightly allow yourself.  The more you imagine yourself dead, the closer you come to finding the idea acceptable, then preferable, and then maybe one day do it.  It’s not so simple as that, of course, and there can be any number of reasons people finally attempt it.  But you deserve better than this fantasy.

Imagine the alternative.  What if you leave suicide as unacceptable?  Off the table?  Maybe you have thoughts more productive and helpful.  Imagine other solutions.  For suicide is not a problem.  It’s a perceived solution, one that is rarely in anyone’s best interests despite what we tell ourselves.  Don’t self-pity yourself into a death-welcoming mindset.

You deserve better fantasies.  And a better life, too.  A longer one.

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