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Ten Reasons to Not Get Tendonitis

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Jul 292015
 

tendonitis2As someone who’s dealt with tendonitis in both arms for almost two decades, I can assure you this injury isn’t something you want.  If you’re not convinced, here are ten reasons you may not have considered.

1. It can ruin your sex life

Your hands can stimulate your partner (or yourself) to great effect – until you can’t do that anymore. Or maybe you can’t do it long enough, having to keep resting, which can kill the arousal buildup your hands were causing.  This means your partner is affected, too.  There are also positions you can no longer do, like missionary (if you’re the guy, on top), because you can’t support your weight like that.

2. You can lose your job

Most jobs need your arms and if you have to stop using them, you might lose your job and everything that goes with it, like insurance and 401k contributions. If you’re covered under someone else’s policy, you have some luck there.

3. It can end your career

If the injury is severe enough, you might never be able to return to your profession after losing your job. This is devastating, particularly if there isn’t another career available to you at first (i.e., you aren’t qualified).  Another career might not be nearly as lucrative, too.

4. It eliminates exercises and might ruin your physique

If you do any sort of weight training, those days may be over. I was a very toned, somewhat muscled young man. I now have only loose muscle on my chest (remnants of a past life).  My shoulders have no muscle at all, my biceps are average, and my triceps are nearly so.  The lack of tone is something I’m used to ignoring in the mirror, but I cover up at the beach, the days of having pride my physique (and the ability to do something about it) long gone.

5. Cavities

Did you know tendonitis can cause cavities? Flossing was too hard for me, causing too much pain, so I stopped for several years.  I developed a multitude of cavities between my teeth.

6. There’s a shortage of knowledgeable medical professionals adept at treating this

The treatment of repetitive stress injuries is in its infancy and finding someone qualified to treat your injury might be a challenge.  Where you live might impact this, too. There’s less information available on what your treatment options are, too. You will have a hard time getting educated.

7. Many hobbies will vanish

Do you play golf, softball, guitar?  Not anymore.

8. Disrespect instead of respect

Despite the injury’s ability to completely destroy your life, tendonitis gets no respect as a serious problem, which means you won’t get any respect either. You can be told to stop being a baby, or stop being lazy, or other obnoxious comments that make it clear people think you’re less of a person now. That includes people you want to date.

9. You can’t pick up lots of things, including your kids

Heavy things are out of the question, but some items leave you little choice, like trash bags, groceries, and wet laundry.  And your kids if you’ve got them and they’re young enough to need a lift.

10. You could be dealing with this the rest of your life

The impact on you will likely lessen in time, but tendonitis can be forever. Some things you’ll never do again, and others might have to wait many years and be altered for the worse, but either way, you’ll be re-considering how to (and if you can) do many things for many years to come.

What I’ve Accomplished Despite Being Learning Disabled

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Jul 282015
 

LD 2One problem with the term “learning disabled” is that it can give the impression that you not only can’t learn but that you’ll never accomplish much.  Both LD people and those unaware of what being LD means can assume this.

To combat that, and to give hope to any LD people suffering the same low self-esteem issues I once faced, here’s a list of a few things I’ve achieved after being diagnosed as learning disabled and given (during middle school) effective coping strategies.

  • I graduated college with a music degree (an intellectually challenging field), with a GPA of 3.89
  • As a programmer
    • I run my own consulting company
    • I’m a professional, highly certified software engineer (a field where constant learning is mandatory)
    • I’ve worked for the U.S. State Department, IRS, Army, Navy, Marines, DHS, TSA, and other government agencies
  • As a musician
    • I run a music publishing company/record label, coordinating the recording, packaging, release, and promotion of albums
    • I own a recording studio and am the producer and recording engineer for all guitars (and other instruments) on my albums
    • I’ve released five CDs, writing and performing all guitar parts and sometimes all other instruments
    • Many consider me a virtuoso guitarist.  I also play drums, bass, piano, and percussion
    • I’ve earned endorsements from three major audio companies for my guitar playing
    • I’ve built three electric guitars
  • As an author
    • I run my own publishing company, coordinating the editing, packaging, release, and promotion of books
    • I’ve written six novels and a memoir
    • I’ve published three novels (under a pseudonym), two of them reaching the Top 20 of their category on Amazon

Click the mp3 player below to hear a song on which I wrote, played, and engineered every performance.

What “Learning Disabled” Means For Me

The phrase “learning disabled” can mean different things.  To quote the Learning Disabilities Association of America’s website, “Learning disabilities are neurologically-based processing problems. These processing problems can interfere with learning basic skills such as reading, writing and/or math.  They can also interfere with higher level skills such as organization, time planning, abstract reasoning, long or […]

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What I’ve Accomplished Despite Being Learning Disabled

One problem with the term “learning disabled” is that it can give the impression that you not only can’t learn but that you’ll never accomplish much.  Both LD people and those unaware of what being LD means can assume this. To combat that, and to give hope to any LD people suffering the same low self-esteem […]

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Why I Blog About Attention Deficit Disorder

Like everyone who has it, I was born with ADD, and it’s permanent.  Technically, the name has changed to ADHD, but that’s misleading for me because I don’t have the “H” – hyperactivity. I’ll be blogging about this because it’s part of my overall story in ways more profound than you’d expect.  I hope to shed […]

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Why I Write About Being Learning Disabled

I’m learning disabled and have been all my life, as it isn’t curable.  It’s just something you deal with and hopefully learn to overcome – every day.  I’ve decided to start sharing my story to give hope to those dealing with it, either because they’re learning disabled or someone they know, like their child, is.  I’ve […]

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The Two Kinds of Interruption

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Jul 272015
 

There are two kinds of conversational interruption: benign and malignant.

Benign Interruption

Benign interruption is the kind you’re familiar with.  It happens once in a while.  The person doing it often means to help you along or say something related to what you’re saying.  They mean no harm.  Since it’s technically rude, they will often show some awareness of this, whether overtly apologizing, making an apologetic gesture, or just going quiet and not doing it again any time soon.

As a result, you’re able to continue and conclude your comments.  Any negative feelings (like rejection) are quickly overcome.  You get “satisfaction” after the affront.  The pain is quickly forgotten and you move on.  No lasting damage is done.  Within minutes, you’ve probably forgotten all about it.

Malignant Interruption

yellingMalignant interruption is very different.  It happens each time you start a sentence, being relentless.  The person doing it is blatantly interfering with your attempt to say something, jumping to conclusions about your intentions and trying to finish sentences for you while getting it wrong, partly because they aren’t listening at all, or they’re hearing what they want to hear.  In some cases, they are believing the worst and aggressively blasting you for intending to say something offensive, even though you weren’t going to.   They’ll never know.

Not only do they show no sign of awareness that what they’re doing is wrong, but they seem to think that what they’re doing is right, especially if they’re punishing you for an imagined slight.  Due to this, they will do it again, and again, and again, raining hammer blows of interruption down on you.

As a result, you not only don’t finish saying what you’d intended to, but they’ve heard you “say” one thing after another that you weren’t actually saying.  They are putting words in your mouth, ideas in your head, and character flaws in your heart.  The pain of being treated so rudely compounds with each repetition.  They are repeatedly stoking negative feelings in you.

You cannot move on because there’s no satisfaction, no resolution, and no end to the barrage.  You remember this long after the incident finally ends.  Lasting damage is done to your relationship and you’ll remember it for months if not years.

And it might not end with that incident, because the next time you talk to them, they might just do it again.  And again.

Finally

I’m aware of the distinction between these (they are my terms) because my family did malignant interruption to me repeatedly, causing me to develop a variety of speech problems that literally ruined my life for decades.  And yet they seemed to think they were doing nothing wrong, chastising me that “everyone gets interrupted” and to “stop being such a baby” about it.

My hope is to improve the dialogue about this by naming these two distinct types of interruption so that we can understand when we’re doing which one, why it’s bad, and stop it.  And those on the receiving end of this treatment have an effective name to call it by.  The first step to destroying something is often naming it.

The Two Kinds of Ignoring

There are two kinds of ignoring: passive and active. Passive Ignoring Passive ignoring is the kind you’re familiar with.  This is when we pretend someone is not actually present.  If they speak, we don’t acknowledge this at all.  It’s as if they said nothing.  We don’t look at them, pretending the seat they’re in is […]

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The Two Kinds of Interruption

There are two kinds of conversational interruption: benign and malignant. Benign Interruption Benign interruption is the kind you’re familiar with.  It happens once in a while.  The person doing it often means to help you along or say something related to what you’re saying.  They mean no harm.  Since it’s technically rude, they will often […]

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Why I Blog About Psychology

My life of introspection has been a well-kept secret despite it dominating my life and outlook. I spent much of the 1990s pacing around after midnight, in turmoil, and in the dark (literally and figuratively), upset about something awful that family, “friends,” or strangers had just done to me. We all have ideas and expectations […]

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Ten Things Not To Say or Do To Someone Mumbling

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Jul 232015
 

As someone who mumbled from the time I was in 3rd grade until I was almost 30 years old, I can tell you that my inability to speak clearly met with all sorts of rude responses that only made me more likely to mumble in the future, assuming I dared to try speaking again at all.  Here’s a list, in no particular order, of ten things you should never say or do to someone mumbling.

Almost everything on this list is hurtful, makes me less likely to speak to you again (or if I do, makes it more likely I’ll again speak poorly), makes you look bad, and makes me disrespect you.  Is that what you really want?

1. Mock or imitate me

I’m already overly sensitive to my speech problems and this only humiliates me and makes me more sensitive, compounding the problem.

2. Snap “Would you stop mumbling?”

Telling me that my speech irritates you just makes me less likely to speak again and also makes you come across as a self-important jerk.

3. Snap “Speak up!”

Showing anger punishes me for trying to communicate with you, like most things on this list.

4. Scornfully say, “I can’t understand you!”

I’m well aware that I’m hard to understand. This scorn humiliates and demeans me.

5. Yell, “Where did you learn how to talk?”

Probably the same place you learned manners.

6. Don’t pretend you heard me and understood when you didn’t

If I say something and you act like you heard me, it will often be apparent when your response has nothing to do with what I just said. You might fool yourself, but you’re not fooling me.  I’ll resent that.

7. Don’t pretend I didn’t say anything or otherwise tune me out

This is even worse than #6.  You may be taking it for granted that I’m never going to say anything you’ll understand, but you should still be trying instead of just writing me off.

8. Tell me, “Nobody cares what you have to say anyway.”

Being fairly certain of this is one of the reasons I’m mumbling to begin with so you’re part of the problem by actually telling me that.

9. Don’t interrupt me

This only makes things worse and this sort of intimidation is why I’m mumbling in the first place. When you destroy my confidence that I’ll be heard, it makes things worse.

10. Snap, “Would you mumble that again?”

Your expectation that I’ll just mumble it instead of repeat it clearly is probably well founded, but that doesn’t mean you should make it clear you’ve lost all hope for me.  I likely have, too, and don’t need your added vote of no confidence.

Why I Blog About Tendonitis

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Jul 222015
 

tendonitisIn August 1996, a severe tendonitis injury (lateral epicondylitis or “tennis elbow”) suddenly appeared in both of my arms. It had been building for up to three years before finally making its presence known. I’ve been dealing with it ever since, along with a second tendonitis injury (this time medial epicondylitis or “golfer’s elbow”), once again to both arms, two years later in September 1998.

The injuries literally destroyed my life.  The list of activities that vanished would’ve covered both wounded arms. It’s easier to say what I still could do: watch TV, read a book, or pace.  And even those caused pain.  That’s why my life had been reduced to, not for days or weeks, but almost a year, and it took years more to get my life back.  I was temporarily crippled.

At some point, I looked up “crippled” to see if that’s what I had become. It’s defined as a permanent, severe disability.  Well, I permanently have tendonitis.  At the time, it was severe.  The question was whether or not it would be permanently severe.  The answer proved to be no, due to extreme rest, physical therapy, and alternative means of living, as I slowly got on with my life (or rather, a very different life), so that’s why I say I was temporarily crippled.

The injury isn’t taken seriously by most people.  I hope to change and help people understand the risk they face if developing it.  The impact can be devastating, as was my case.  Future blogs will delve more into my story and what you can learn from me.

Ten Reasons to Not Get Tendonitis

As someone who’s dealt with tendonitis in both arms for almost two decades, I can assure you this injury isn’t something you want.  If you’re not convinced, here are ten reasons you may not have considered. 1. It can ruin your sex life Your hands can stimulate your partner (or yourself) to great effect – until […]

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Ten Remedies for Tendonitis

If you have tendonitis, there are a number of remedies to try. You should consult your doctor before doing anything. 1. Rest Sadly, your best remedy is rest.  Avoid using your arms any more than needed and be careful how you use them when you do. Behavior modification is crucial to recovery.  If you keep doing what […]

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Why I Blog About Tendonitis

In August 1996, a severe tendonitis injury (lateral epicondylitis or “tennis elbow”) suddenly appeared in both of my arms. It had been building for up to three years before finally making its presence known. I’ve been dealing with it ever since, along with a second tendonitis injury (this time medial epicondylitis or “golfer’s elbow”), once again to both […]

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What “Learning Disabled” Means For Me

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Jul 212015
 

define-learning-disabilityThe phrase “learning disabled” can mean different things.  To quote the Learning Disabilities Association of America’s website, “Learning disabilities are neurologically-based processing problems. These processing problems can interfere with learning basic skills such as reading, writing and/or math.  They can also interfere with higher level skills such as organization, time planning, abstract reasoning, long or short term memory and attention.  It is important to realize that learning disabilities can affect an individual’s life beyond academics and can impact relationships with family, friends and in the workplace.

“…Learning disabilities should not be confused with learning problems which are primarily the result of visual, hearing, or motor handicaps; of mental retardation; of emotional disturbance; or of environmental, cultural or economic disadvantages.

“Generally speaking, people with learning disabilities are of average or above average intelligence. There often appears to be a gap between the individual’s potential and actual achievement. This is why learning disabilities are referred to as “hidden disabilities”: the person looks perfectly “normal” and seems to be a very bright and intelligent person, yet may be unable to demonstrate the skill level expected from someone of a similar age.

“A learning disability cannot be cured or fixed; it is a lifelong challenge.”

The site lists a number of specific learning disabilities, but I’m not sure which one applies to me because these terms are newer than when I was diagnosed and treated from 1983-85.

But here’s what I can tell you: I can’t remember any sequential information given to me verbally.  This includes a stream of numbers (like a phone number), which made math very difficult.  I also cannot remember a series of steps to take, which made just about everything almost impossible.  I’ve often joked that there’s a stereotype that guys never stop driving to ask for directions when they’re lost, and I wouldn’t either, not because I have a big ego about my ability to get from one place to another, but because I wouldn’t remember anything you told me anyway.

I’ll soon post about how I overcame this.  And do every day.

What “Learning Disabled” Means For Me

The phrase “learning disabled” can mean different things.  To quote the Learning Disabilities Association of America’s website, “Learning disabilities are neurologically-based processing problems. These processing problems can interfere with learning basic skills such as reading, writing and/or math.  They can also interfere with higher level skills such as organization, time planning, abstract reasoning, long or […]

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What I’ve Accomplished Despite Being Learning Disabled

One problem with the term “learning disabled” is that it can give the impression that you not only can’t learn but that you’ll never accomplish much.  Both LD people and those unaware of what being LD means can assume this. To combat that, and to give hope to any LD people suffering the same low self-esteem […]

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Why I Blog About Attention Deficit Disorder

Like everyone who has it, I was born with ADD, and it’s permanent.  Technically, the name has changed to ADHD, but that’s misleading for me because I don’t have the “H” – hyperactivity. I’ll be blogging about this because it’s part of my overall story in ways more profound than you’d expect.  I hope to shed […]

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Why I Write About Being Learning Disabled

I’m learning disabled and have been all my life, as it isn’t curable.  It’s just something you deal with and hopefully learn to overcome – every day.  I’ve decided to start sharing my story to give hope to those dealing with it, either because they’re learning disabled or someone they know, like their child, is.  I’ve […]

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Why I Blog About Psychology

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Jul 202015
 

Philosophy StoneMy life of introspection has been a well-kept secret despite it dominating my life and outlook. I spent much of the 1990s pacing around after midnight, in turmoil, and in the dark (literally and figuratively), upset about something awful that family, “friends,” or strangers had just done to me. We all have ideas and expectations about how people are supposed to behave.  And sometimes those around us betray those ideas on accident or on purpose, whether for “fun” or to hurt us.

I’d fallen in with bad people, and there were so many incidents that I not only thought about the current one, but recent ones.  In so doing, I began to notice patterns in their behavior.  And soon I had names for these and an explanation.  It’s an awful way to gain peace and understanding, but maybe what I discovered the hard way you can learn more easily just by reading about them.

As an amateur psychologist and philosopher, my field of study is belief and behavior.  What I mean is:

  1. How and why people use our behavior to work their way back into our heads and decide what kind of people they think we are, while usually missing the mark
  2. How and why our beliefs manifest, or fail to, in our behavior.

In the coming months I’ll be discussing my ideas on here and would love to hear what other people think about them.  Hopefully they can help you, too.

The Two Kinds of Ignoring

There are two kinds of ignoring: passive and active. Passive Ignoring Passive ignoring is the kind you’re familiar with.  This is when we pretend someone is not actually present.  If they speak, we don’t acknowledge this at all.  It’s as if they said nothing.  We don’t look at them, pretending the seat they’re in is […]

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The Two Kinds of Interruption

There are two kinds of conversational interruption: benign and malignant. Benign Interruption Benign interruption is the kind you’re familiar with.  It happens once in a while.  The person doing it often means to help you along or say something related to what you’re saying.  They mean no harm.  Since it’s technically rude, they will often […]

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Why I Blog About Psychology

My life of introspection has been a well-kept secret despite it dominating my life and outlook. I spent much of the 1990s pacing around after midnight, in turmoil, and in the dark (literally and figuratively), upset about something awful that family, “friends,” or strangers had just done to me. We all have ideas and expectations […]

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Jul 202015
 

Last week we looked at ten signs you’re a “bad” IT recruiter, but there are another ten to go through, so here we go!

1. You give me an attitude about anything or make any negative, personal remarks.

This is never okay, even if you feel it’s deserved.  You’re at work and can’t do this, especially in writing.

I’ve had a couple guys yell at me (writing in all caps).  Someone once tried to tell me what kind of person he thought I was (it wasn’t flattering), just because he felt I owed him a call back.  Another guy shouted that I was wasting everyone’s time when I turned down the interview because I’d accepted another job in the meantime and called to tell him so.

Just don’t do it.

2. You don’t have a job for me.  You want to chat about my career goals when my profile and resume say what those are. You claim it will “only take 5 minutes!” and badger me into it, then won’t let me off the phone for 20 minutes of talking that is almost all you.

recruiter-illustrationRecruiters do this with the explanation that we’re forming a relationship that will bear fruit down the line.  It’s not true.  Not once have I gotten a job from this, in over 15 years, which is why I won’t do this, to the amazement of some recruiters.  It’s a recruiters job to talk and form relationships. It’s my job to code and avoid ceaseless, pointless blathering.  Yes, I know how it sounds, but it’s the truth.  The more I’m talking (or listening to someone else do it), the less productive I am.  It’s one reason coders hate meetings.

Besides, you’ll call me later, when you have a job for me, without this conversation having taken place, so there’s literally no reason for me to entertain this.  That you’ll talk my ear off is the real deal breaker here.  And the fact that plenty of other recruiters are contacting me about actual jobs at the same time that you’re doing this.  It really is a waste of my time.

Imagine if the 20-30 other recruiters did it. I’d literally be on the phone all day.

3. You insist on doing #2 in person.

Some firms want to tell their clients, “We interview everyone in person before even sending their resume so we know we’re sending good people.” This “selling point” for your firm (to your clients, not me) is more work for me and gains me nothing.  You’ll try to tell me that it gives me an edge over candidates that other firms are sending, but it probably doesn’t.

It is actually a big negative for me due to the hassle. Depending on time of day and distance, this can cost me an additional hour or two when you don’t even have a job for me.

I refuse to work with these companies anymore because there are so many jobs I can get without having to deal with this.

4. You tell me that writing a job description for me is a waste of your time when that’s actually part of your job.

I’ve actually heard this several times. It is hard to believe. Over 99% of your peers already provide one without me having to ask. It’s industry standard. In fact, when you don’t send one in your initial email, I’m very unlikely to reply at all. And never tell me my request is a “waste of your time.”  That’s just stupid and falls under #1 above.

5. You don’t tell me there’s a written or computer exam and I only find out at the interview when handed one.

This is something you always need to find out and tell people. These tech screenings are often unfair even with advance warning, but setting me up to fail/be broadsided tells me you aren’t looking out for me. Make sure you get it right, too (whether it’s verbal, written, etc., light questions versus very technical). I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been told what to expect and it’s totally off. More often than not, probably.

6. You ask me questions that make it clear you haven’t read my resume.

Doing your homework will make you look good. Not doing it will not.

7. After I tell you that the job doesn’t meet my criteria, you say “Let me tell you about this anyway” and proceed to do so, ignoring my attempts to stop you.

This is just rude. I don’t get it. Do you just want to hear yourself talk? Are you lonely?

8. I tell you my hourly rate for contract work and you try to talk me down by a whopping $20-25 per hour, as if $40k less a year is no biggie.

Are you that ignorant of the pay cut you’re trying to convince me to take or do you think I’m desperate? I can get a job for what I quoted you. If for some bizarre reason I accepted your job, I’d keep looking and quit the second I got a less ridiculous rate, so what’s the point for you?

9. Your English is incomprehensible.

I have no issue with foreigners or thick accents, but if you’re that hard to understand, email will be better for you.

10. You act like you’re doing me a favor by contacting me when there are another 20 recruiters contacting me the same day, sometimes about the same job.

Maybe this accounts for some of what’s on this list.  It’s a competitive world out there and this doesn’t give you an advantage.  I suppose this could fall under #1, so here’s a bonus:

11. Bonus #1 – You already know the job is off target but send it anyway and ask me to forward it to people I might know, doing your job for you.

Some people consider this networking.  I don’t.  It’s a touchy area and since you don’t know how someone feels about this, you should be super nice when trying this.  Bear in mind that lots of people might be doing that to me and with repetition comes my dislike.  You might not think it’s a big deal, but if every recruiter did that I’d get thousands of emails a day.

It’s okay to ask when the job also applies to me. It’s another thing to send jobs that have nothing to do with me. Don’t do it.

12. Bonus # – You threaten to blacklist me because you’ve taken something personally, like this list.

Remember that in the digital world, something like a threat lasts forever. It’s beyond just unprofessional.

Another 10 Signs You’re a Bad Technical Recruiter

Last week we looked at ten signs you’re a “bad” IT recruiter, but there are another ten to go through, so here we go! 1. You give me an attitude about anything or make any negative, personal remarks. This is never okay, even if you feel it’s deserved.  You’re at work and can’t do this, especially […]

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Ten Signs You’re a Good IT Manager

Since we’ve looked at reasons someone can be a bad IT manager, let’s look at reasons for good ones. 1. You ask staff opinions about technical concerns before trying to make a decision This is relevant if you’re less technical/current than your staff.  It shows you respect them and are a team player. It’s also smart because […]

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Ten Signs You’re a Bad IT Manager

Life in the corporate world is hugely affected by managers, so we’ll take a look at ten reasons managers can be terrible.  If you’re a manager, watch out for doing these things and earning a bad reputation. 1. You throw me under the bus Managers are supposed to look out for their staff, not screw them […]

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Ten Signs You’re a Bad Technical Recruiter

Recently I did the Ten Signs You’re a Good Technical Recruiter.  This time we look at ten mistakes technical recruiters can make so that programmers don’t respond favorably (or at all) to job postings and calls/emails.  And what recruiters can do to mitigate these issues. If you have comments, please add them at the end. 1. After receiving […]

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Ten Signs You’re a Good Technical Recruiter

As a professional programmer, I’ve interacted with technical recruiters for over fifteen years and have noticed that the good ones share certain traits.  Here are things I like in a recruiter, in no particular order: 1. You send me an email with the following info in the very first one: A job description A fairly specific location […]

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Jul 172015
 

Like everyone who has it, I was born with ADD, and it’s permanent.  Technically, the name has changed to ADHD, but that’s misleading for me because I don’t have the “H” – hyperactivity.

adhdI’ll be blogging about this because it’s part of my overall story in ways more profound than you’d expect.  I hope to shed light on the ways it can hinder – and help – me, you, or someone you know, whether it’s in school, work, or life in general.  ADHD is not only a negative, as it can be a positive.  And it can impact the lives of others, too, as my mother’s undiagnosed – and untreated – ADHD contributed to me developing speech problems that ruined my life for two decades.

I have observations that I don’t hear others making and I’d like to do my part to enlighten anyone needing it.  And for you to really understand my life, story, struggles, and triumphs, you must know how ADD manifests in, builds, and destroys me and my life.  And I would love to hear from others about their stories, too.

Despite ADHD, and maybe even because of it at times, I’ve excelled and become very successful, so I hope my story can inspire you.

What “Learning Disabled” Means For Me

The phrase “learning disabled” can mean different things.  To quote the Learning Disabilities Association of America’s website, “Learning disabilities are neurologically-based processing problems. These processing problems can interfere with learning basic skills such as reading, writing and/or math.  They can also interfere with higher level skills such as organization, time planning, abstract reasoning, long or […]

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What I’ve Accomplished Despite Being Learning Disabled

One problem with the term “learning disabled” is that it can give the impression that you not only can’t learn but that you’ll never accomplish much.  Both LD people and those unaware of what being LD means can assume this. To combat that, and to give hope to any LD people suffering the same low self-esteem […]

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Why I Blog About Attention Deficit Disorder

Like everyone who has it, I was born with ADD, and it’s permanent.  Technically, the name has changed to ADHD, but that’s misleading for me because I don’t have the “H” – hyperactivity. I’ll be blogging about this because it’s part of my overall story in ways more profound than you’d expect.  I hope to shed […]

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Why I Write About Being Learning Disabled

I’m learning disabled and have been all my life, as it isn’t curable.  It’s just something you deal with and hopefully learn to overcome – every day.  I’ve decided to start sharing my story to give hope to those dealing with it, either because they’re learning disabled or someone they know, like their child, is.  I’ve […]

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Why I Write About Being Learning Disabled

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Jul 142015
 

LDI’m learning disabled and have been all my life, as it isn’t curable.  It’s just something you deal with and hopefully learn to overcome – every day.  I’ve decided to start sharing my story to give hope to those dealing with it, either because they’re learning disabled or someone they know, like their child, is.  I’ve become quite successful academically and professionally and hope that some details of my story can help those in need of encouragement or help.

This is something the public isn’t very aware of, either – I want to do my small part to change that.  I’ve hidden this disability most of my life due to the likelihood of people having no idea what I’m talking about and jumping to unhelpful conclusions.  No one should have to hide basic facts about themselves for fear of misunderstanding, judgment, or discrimination.

Today (and for a long time, really) I don’t need any special help, so hiding it hasn’t been causing any problems for me.  But I’d still love to admit it and not get a bad reaction.  There’s a stigma associated with any disability, especially mental ones, when there shouldn’t be.  Frankly, many “normal” people are not exactly a pinnacle of mental health or rationality but don’t have a condition they can lay the blame on! And yet those very people can look at those with a mental disability as if we’re diseased or something.

I’m not at all ashamed of being learning disabled.  I’m quite proud that I’ve overcome this for decades and that most people have absolutely no clue what I went through, how it affected me, or what coping strategies I use everyday to excel at so many things I do.  I don’t think we’ll ever reach the point when I can say “I’m learning disabled” and someone will respond, “That’s awesome!”  But a guy can dream.

If anything I write resonates with you, please let me know in comments or with an email. I’d like to hear from other people and their successes or struggles.

What “Learning Disabled” Means For Me

The phrase “learning disabled” can mean different things.  To quote the Learning Disabilities Association of America’s website, “Learning disabilities are neurologically-based processing problems. These processing problems can interfere with learning basic skills such as reading, writing and/or math.  They can also interfere with higher level skills such as organization, time planning, abstract reasoning, long or […]

0 comments

What I’ve Accomplished Despite Being Learning Disabled

One problem with the term “learning disabled” is that it can give the impression that you not only can’t learn but that you’ll never accomplish much.  Both LD people and those unaware of what being LD means can assume this. To combat that, and to give hope to any LD people suffering the same low self-esteem […]

0 comments

Why I Blog About Attention Deficit Disorder

Like everyone who has it, I was born with ADD, and it’s permanent.  Technically, the name has changed to ADHD, but that’s misleading for me because I don’t have the “H” – hyperactivity. I’ll be blogging about this because it’s part of my overall story in ways more profound than you’d expect.  I hope to shed […]

2 comments

Why I Write About Being Learning Disabled

I’m learning disabled and have been all my life, as it isn’t curable.  It’s just something you deal with and hopefully learn to overcome – every day.  I’ve decided to start sharing my story to give hope to those dealing with it, either because they’re learning disabled or someone they know, like their child, is.  I’ve […]

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